Are You Dating Your Husband?

Date Your Husband

 Years ago I heard this question " Are you dating your husband?" I honestly wasn't sure what that even meant. How do you date someone your already married to?

  As the years went on, I heard this question more and more. So I decided to look into it. It started to make sense, however if I had to answer the question at that time. I would of had to say NO! I was married and had children and to be honest I had gotten so caught up into a routine that didn't allow me to date my husband! I was caught up in the everyday To-Do list that I didn't have time for anything else.

 I had the house clean, meals on the table, and the children were taken care of. So my marriage was good!

 Last year, my husband and I went to a " Love Worth Fighting For" marriage event with Kirk Cameron. I have to say, that night changed my whole view on marriage. For the first time, I understood the true meaning of "Marriage."  " A man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." Genesis 2:24 

 Kirk, asks the question " Do you want an alright marriage, or do you want the best marriage God has for you?" I knew I wanted a marriage that honored God, and I knew we weren't one flesh. I felt convicted that night in a good way! Changes had to happen, even if they were uncomfortable.

 I started praying that God would give me the Wisdom and Guidance in my marriage that I needed.

 That is when, I started DATING my husband. God changed my heart and revealed many things that I was not aware of . My children were my top priority and that had to change.

 Dating My Husband Looks Like This

 

 1. Marriage is my 2nd Priority: My relationship with God is my Top priority. My marriage follows          after.

2. Regular Date Night: I make sure to have regular date nights. This is very important to keep a solid     one-on-one connection with my husband. 

3. Flirting: I make it a point to flirt with my husband whenever I can. This can be a text, love letter,         or simply sweet comments.

4. Fun: I make sure not to forget to have fun in our marriage. We joke around a lot, laugh, and some    of our dates are spontaneous which makes it a lot of fun!

5. 3 Things: Everyday we share 3 things that happened in our day and how it made us feel. This        has encouraged us so much! Some people call it : Couch Time

6. Marriage check -in: At the end of each week, we rate our marriage from 1-10. We talk about why       we chose that number and openly discuss ways to improve our marriage. This has absolutely               been great for our marriage!

 No matter how long you have been married, I encourage you to date your Husband!

Building a Firm Foundation

 Foundations

 I decided to do a mother-daughter Bible study with my youngest. She is 9 years old and is changing before my eyes. We are approaching the tween years! 

 I really wanted to use this time to connect and open conversation based on God's word. We read, memorize scripture, and just enjoy our time together. 

 It is so important to set a firm foundation for your children.

 So I took a trip to a Christian book store. They had so many books to choose from. I really wanted something to focus on her heart. 

 I found the perfect book " A Girl After God's Own Heart." 
By: Elizabeth George. I have also read many of her books and have truly been blessed by her.

The Topics include:

1. My Heart
2. My Space
3. My parents
4. My family
5. my School
6. My Friends
7. My Church
8. My Self
9. My Time
10. My Adventures with Jesus


 These are all great areas to teach your daughters on. This book is filled with so much fun, scriptures, questions, and prayers. 

 My daughter looks forward to opening this book each night!

 What are you doing to help build your daughter's firm foundation in God? There are so many ways to do this. I would love to know more..








   

A Mother's Purpose

Do you know your purpose as a mother?

  As mothers, God calls us to lovingly teach and train our children. In doing so, we need to be constantly seeking God and his wisdom. We are to teach our children about God and help them understand the Bible.

"She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue." Proverbs 31:26

 As mother's, we are guiding and shaping our children everyday. Are you modeling godly ways in your home? Our children are always watching us, no mater how old they may be. We should be giving instructions, correction, and more importantly discipline. Yes, God calls us to discipline our children even though it may be heartbreaking at times. 

" A child left to himself brings shame to his mother..Discipline your son, and he will give you rest; he will give delight to your heart." Proverbs 29:15,17 

 Your children are unique. As mothers, we need to help our children understand their personality, gifts, and abilities. We need to affirm our children and help build their character.  

A mother helps shape her children's future by Love, Influence, and Equipping the next generation! 

Joyfully,

    Tara-Lyn